Hello again!                                                                                           January 29, 2012

Who really wants to spend time with anger!?

I do, and you may want to too.
 
Here's why:

~ We want to be happy and healthy.
~ We want to have fun, joy, pleasure.
~ We want abundance of all that is good.

 If old anger is inside us, and not able to get out, it stops our fun and our health. If new anger arises and we don't express it constructively, the same thing happens. This weakens us.
But remember...anger is not bad. Anger is not the problem. Misunderstanding anger, and using it in an armored, destructive way is the problem.
 
Look at yourself with curiosity and make self-discovery a priority. One idea here is to see yourself as a boiling kettle that needs to let off steam so it doesn't explode. You can safely drain bits at a time to help you feel better emotionally and physically. 

When you drain your anger make sure you are being safe and kind to yourself and all around you. Most of these anger releasers I do alone. I try not to direct them at anyone. We want to get our anger out / not take it out on others.

Here are solutions that I have used and do use to safely drain old armored anger:

[ These ideas may sound strange to you. They did to me at first. I have had training with this, so now it seems normal, helpful and healthy to me. Take it slow. Pay attention to how you feel about what you are doing. Let your feelings be your guide to do what works for you. If you feel like it's not right for you, try a different approach]

*  Yell  *  Stomp around  *  Bite a towel (like a dog playing tug-of-war)  *  Punch pillows

 or a punching bag   *   Swear  *   Pelvic thrusts  *   Make ugly faces  *  Let your eyes

 glare   *   Throw a "2yr old" tantrum   *   Kick box

When I feel tension in my jaw, It may prompt me to release some stored anger in there.
You can get to know your body well enough to feel where the anger is stuck.
Try to always be aware of how your eyes are feeling. If they feel stuck / blocked / confused, wait until you feel some freedom and clarity in your eyes before doing more with anger. In our armored world, it is normal to fear anger. If you feel afraid of this anger, try seeing the fear in your eyes in a mirror. You are safe. If you can allow this fear to move on, it will help your process.

Dealing with this old stored up anger is different than dealing with new anger that comes up today or tomorrow. Next time let's talk about that too, because it all blends in together.

Please feel free to ask questions about any of this, or share what you are going through. We are learning every day.

Getting back to pleasure,
Dana